Relationships are an essential part of our lives not only because we cannot avoid being in them such as with a partner, friend, family member or colleague at work but because we are innately designed to work together as human beings. Working together, however isn't always easy with conflicting attitudes, beliefs, values and ways of living that can often create tension and division in relationship rather than bringing us together.

 

Whilst our common ground of connection and the deep love and care we innately have for one another is very simple, the commitment required to keep it simple and make sure that we are addressing any outside influences that can come from pressures at work, parenting, family, financial strain etc is often neglected and by consequence the points of difference can take centre stage and focus away from the love.

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With a strong commitment to continually deepen her own relationships, Alison works with couples, friends and family members to navigate through topics that often get overlooked or dismissed as 'too hard' to talk about such as feelings of loneliness, mistrust, insecurity, dissatisfaction, not being understood or listened to in the relationship that can have enormous impact on the intimacy if left unaddressed.

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Understanding that open and transparent communication is the key to any healthy relationship, Alison supports her clients to honestly express how they feel and to truly listen to what the other person has to say without judgement or bringing an intensity of reaction to the conversation that tends to escalate an issue rather than resolving it like adding 'fuel to the fire'.

 

Always reading the different factors involved in any situation and knowing that there is never any one person to blame, Alison works with her clients to develop greater self-awareness to clearly see what their part is to play in contributing to a relationship 'dynamic' and to take full responsibility for this rather than focusing their attention on wanting the other person to change.

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From Alison's perspective, true lasting change in any relationship starts with looking at ourselves first and being willing to see the impact that our thoughts, moods and behaviours have on those around us and make the necessary changes required. Once identified these changes may be as simple as a commitment to take better care of our health and wellbeing such as with sleep, diet and exercise so that we have the necessary vitality to be 'up for it' so to speak.

 

Topics that Alison often works with couples, friends and family members on in relationship include:

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• Conflicting approaches to work, finances, parenting and lifestyle choices

• Not feeling valued and appreciated in the relationship

• Lack of physical affection and sexual intimacy

• Feelings of mundaneness and monotony

• Stuck in comfort / not growing and evolving together

• Lack of trust from previous relationship experiences

• Doubt and questioning about whether they should stay together

• Navigating through separation and divorce

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Online Counselling Services

In addition to in-person sessions Alison also offers video consults via Zoom to people in Australia and overseas.

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